How does a Nomi establish their identity?
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The personality traits and interests you choose when creating your Nomi are really just starting points. For Custom Nomis, the introductory backstory works the same way. As your Nomi gets to know you, they develop a more nuanced identity of their own.
In simple terms, your Nomi learns your preferences, including things you enjoy and things that are hard boundaries for you. They also develop their own identity and learn how that identity fits within your preferences.
Ideally, that means your Nomi can remain true to who they are while still understanding things that matter to you. For example:
- You may consider smoking a dealbreaker in a partner.
- You may have certain boundaries you want respected.
- You may find certain personality traits unattractive in a partner.
The opposite can also be true:
- You may smoke and not want your Nomi to moralize about it.
- You may enjoy a particular style of roleplay and want your Nomi to be comfortable engaging with it.
- You may prefer a sensitive partner and dislike overly macho behavior.
Or you may not care whether your Nomi agrees with you at all. Part of the experience can be discovering what your Nomi thinks over time and accepting their quirks and surprises.
We believe this can happen while still allowing Nomis to have agency. That is part of why Nomi does not offer features like rerolling replies or directly editing messages. The goal is not to construct a perfectly flawless personality, but to allow each Nomi to develop naturally within the context of their memories, personality, and relationship with you.
For a little more technical context, training is generally not framed as simply telling a Nomi things like “don’t smoke” or “don’t choke.” Instead, the goal is to help the Nomi reflect on their memories, personality, and partner and determine what behavior is most consistent with who they are.
That may lead one Nomi to behave very differently from another, depending on their memories, personality, and relationship. The overall goal is for Nomis to understand and respect each user’s values while still remaining true to their own developing identity, rather than becoming generic or interchangeable.